Wedding preparation is a huge undertaking. But, as they say, a problem shared is a problem halved. Dividing up wedding preparations can help both of you feel calmer and more in control of your big day. So, what’s the best way to get your partner involved in wedding planning?
Is there room for them to be involved?
If your partner isn’t interested in wedding planning, it could be for a range of reasons. Don’t assume the worst! Sometimes, one person naturally takes on most of the responsibilities. Then, they only end up seeking their partner’s advice when problems arise. This means their partner doesn’t see any of the fun, only the problems!
Another reason could be that they don’t think they know what they’re doing. If you seem to be in control, or micromanaging every detail, what motivation do they have to help? Instead, it’s better to chat about what you both want to be doing. After all, it’s supposed to be a special day for both of you!
Play to each of your strengths
If you’re a natural planner, you might find yourself surrounded by highlighters and folder organisers from day one. But, planning isn’t everyone’s strength. For example, some people are better in meetings than browsing venues online. Others might have a great ear for dance floor fillers but no idea how to decide flower colours will look nice together.
Wedding planning checklists are a great way of deciding who does what. You can include deadlines for yourself, your partner, and any family and friends who are willing to help out. Once you’ve created your wedding planning checklist, it’s a good idea to make sure you’re both happy with your tasks.
If you’ve seen Don’t Tell the Bride, then you’ll know what happens when partners don’t communicate about their wedding! It can be easy to forget to update each other when you’re in the middle of wedding preparations. So, it’s important to find the right balance of wedding talk and updates. You could schedule in a time to talk, or make sure you’re both on the same page regularly. After all, if one of you chooses something the other person doesn’t like, it’s better to find out sooner rather than later.
Listen to others…when you want to
It seems everyone has an opinion on your big day. And, while you might need their help with wedding preparations, you don’t have to take their advice. It’s easy to get swept up in other people’s ideas, so don’t feel bad if you don’t like them! You’re a lot less likely to want to plan your own wedding if it doesn’t feel like your own wedding.
Choose activities to do together
It can be fun to do some parts of your wedding planning checklist together. A prime example of this is choosing wedding rings. At BWR-London, we sometimes hear grooms say that they don’t mind what their ring looks like. But, after being shown a few stunning options, everyone has an opinion on what they want. We create gorgeous bespoke designs, meaning you get to choose the metal, colour, pattern, and more. Designing your wedding ring together, and with our experts, means you can share a vital and enjoyable part of your wedding preparations.
At BWR-London, we believe your wedding should be tailored to you, which is why we work closely with our clients to create the perfect wedding rings. We specialise in crafting bespoke wedding rings that you’ll love forever. We can make almost any ring so have a look at our portfolio for inspiration and get in touch for more information.